Ask for Help


Ask for Help

By Bruce S. Riley, LMFT

“No man is an island entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main; if a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as any manner of thy friends or of thine own were; any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind. And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee.”

John Donne wrote this poem in 1624.

It certainly emphasizes the importance of our recognition of our need for help when needed. Think about it, we get help all the time:

  • Medical assistance
  • Dental care
  • Pharmaceuticals (over the counter)
  • Makeup and hair stylists
  • Grocers, butchers, bakers, auto mechanics, etc.

The fact is, we all need help. Sometimes we don’t have all the answers; sometimes we feel overwhelmed with stress; sometimes we feel depressed; sometimes our losses are so great that we can’t wrap our heads around the pain. So what should you do? Drown in sorrow, go into hiding, leave and never come back, or go on a drinking binge? Why not ask for help?

Yes, I know you can’t trust everyone, but you can trust someone. If you can allow yourself to be put under anesthesia by a perfect stranger, or go naked before a doctor, surely there are other professions that also operate under a high level of confidence and confidentiality.

If you need help, ask. Take a trusted friends advice and seek out the help that is recommended. It could save your life or someone you know.

I will make myself available to you, or be willing to give you a good recommendation.

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