Better Together


"Better Together"

By Bruce S. Riley, LMFT

I'm sure you've heard the expression "Two heads are better than one". Well, I believe it is true, especially when it comes to developing a successful marriage. The expression suggests that the thoughts, ideas, and abilities of two people brought together would work far better to solve problems, complete a project, or get a job done much faster than one person doing it. Two people can pool their resources and share perspectives that give faster results and better decision making.

To see two people walk, work, and love together is a beautiful thing. It is a bond developed by mutual trust and the increasing comfort gained every time you spend time together. The more things we do together, the more we learn each other's strengths and abilities. This makes for easier living. It also allows you to distribute appropriate roles in the household. For example, two people working gives you two incomes so you can purchase a home, or one could work and the other can take care of the household.

My wife and I look out for each other. As we watch each other's backs we gain a sense of support and teamwork. I love being with this woman. She gives me a reason to come home. I even sleep better when she is laying next to me. It is a fact that people who have a companion live much longer than a person who lives alone.

"Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone?" Ecclesiastes 4:9-11

Finally, love is a partnership of two unique people who bring out the very best in each other, and who know that even though they are wonderful as individuals, they are even better together.